LUCAS STYLES.
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Post by LUCAS STYLES. on Aug 26, 2007 0:44:17 GMT -5
Well Lisette I took your advice. I really do like her a lot and knowing that after liking her for so long..I missed my initial chance, sucks. But now with your advice I have another shot  . I'll keep everyone posted on how things work out. |
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Post by Trouble* on Aug 26, 2007 0:45:57 GMT -5
I've always liked a girl, problem is I've known her for so long (and ironically like her the whole time) that she considers me a brother. I'm not 100% interested in hooking up with her right now because let's face it, I'm to young to be dating. It's pretty pointless when you're 14. But, what I want is advice for the future. I'm afraid telling her the truth might freak her out and make her avoid me, and I'd much rather keep her as a good friend then have nothing. Help?
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Post by dru on Aug 26, 2007 0:47:26 GMT -5
Macho Libre? I'm stealin' that one.
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Post by reddeath on Aug 26, 2007 0:47:53 GMT -5
Ryan, I really hate these situations... i've encountered a lot of them, and for me none of them went well... Some of them were still my friends after I told them, but I can't help you much here... I would just wait until you can't hold it any longer...
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Post by xwa on Aug 26, 2007 0:48:38 GMT -5
The only reason it got you in trouble is because you weren't being truthful. There's a difference between telling the truth and being truthful. I dunno, might be a chick thing. But I'm more sympathetic to a guy who'll admit he made a mistake then to one who feels he needs to me macho libre and not fess up. I admitted to any girl that I want to be with, that I have cheated in the past. And that sends them running. Ergo, honesty has fucked me over. |
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Post by reddeath on Aug 26, 2007 0:50:17 GMT -5
The only reason it got you in trouble is because you weren't being truthful. There's a difference between telling the truth and being truthful. I dunno, might be a chick thing. But I'm more sympathetic to a guy who'll admit he made a mistake then to one who feels he needs to me macho libre and not fess up. I admitted to any girl that I want to be with, that I have cheated in the past. And that sends them running. Ergo, honesty has fucked me over. What sucks is that a lot of people don't realize that people change, and circumstances change... |
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LUCAS STYLES.
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Post by LUCAS STYLES. on Aug 26, 2007 0:51:11 GMT -5
Well Ryan...I'd suggest not really letting her know...yet. Maybe make some very slight notions to her that you like her, nothing obvious. Maybe go to the movies with her and work the yawn and reach..see how it works for you. She'll either consider it a nice brotherly gesture, or snuggle close to you and well...then you know shes at least a little interested. Just work in some slight things, dropping bits of information that you might be interested and see how she reacts. If she isn't interested, then just stay good friends with her.
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Post by lis on Aug 26, 2007 0:51:26 GMT -5
I've always liked a girl, problem is I've known her for so long (and ironically like her the whole time) that she considers me a brother. I'm not 100% interested in hooking up with her right now because let's face it, I'm to young to be dating. It's pretty pointless when you're 14. But, what I want is advice for the future. I'm afraid telling her the truth might freak her out and make her avoid me, and I'd much rather keep her as a good friend then have nothing. Help? That's a tough one because who's to say you end up liking her still in two years, but at the same time who's to say won't? I'd say keep her as a friend still, and if you see the chance when you're older, then make an approach. But don't do it unless you're ABSOLUTLY sure you're willing to take the risk. I've dated a guy I was friends with from childhood, and it didn't end pretty. |
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Post by xwa on Aug 26, 2007 0:52:47 GMT -5
I admitted to any girl that I want to be with, that I have cheated in the past. And that sends them running. Ergo, honesty has fucked me over. What sucks is that a lot of people don't realize that people change, and circumstances change... I agree. I have changed. I don't cheat anymore. It's not worth the hassle, the heart ache, etc. |
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Post by LUCAS STYLES. on Aug 26, 2007 0:54:46 GMT -5
Start off by saying that you've made some mistakes but that you've sincerely changed your ways. Explain why this happened, explain the situation and they might sympathize. Or just don't mention it, you can still be honest, just forget the past since its not you anymore. Only tell the truth about what you are RIGHT now. I'm not gonna approach a girl telling her that I used to send horrible grammar'd love notes to 7 girls at a time in kindergarten. Because that was kindergarten and now I'm in highschool. Now I only send love notes, ones with gooder grammar  , to one girl. |
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Post by dru on Aug 26, 2007 0:55:39 GMT -5
Rule #1 megz... NEVER TELL A FEMALE YOU'VE CHEATED BEFORE!!! That's an automatic red flag. At least not right off the jump. Wait until you're REALLY deep into the relationship before even GOING into that area. There is a timeline for said info to be shared, and it sure as hell aint the first few dates. |
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Post by xwa on Aug 26, 2007 0:56:30 GMT -5
Yea, but if my past is ever brought up, and they question it, then they'll say i wasn't being truthful and yada yada yada.
`sighs`
and tbh, I cheated, because I could. I didn't have any remorse for it as a teen. Now? I can't do anything without feeling remorse, so ya. And I have stated that I have changed, but they don't buy it.
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Post by xwa on Aug 26, 2007 0:57:16 GMT -5
Rule #1 megz... NEVER TELL A FEMALE YOU'VE CHEATED BEFORE!!! That's an automatic red flag. At least not right off the jump. Wait until you're REALLY deep into the relationship before even GOING into that area. There is a timeline for said info to be shared, and it sure as hell aint the first few dates. Well, been a long time since I've had any dates.... Anyways, I got a post coming up that explains myself and breaks myself down.... |
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Post by lis on Aug 26, 2007 0:57:42 GMT -5
Rule #1 megz... NEVER TELL A FEMALE YOU'VE CHEATED BEFORE!!! That's an automatic red flag. At least not right off the jump. Wait until you're REALLY deep into the relationship before even GOING into that area. There is a timeline for said info to be shared, and it sure as hell aint the first few dates. Unless of course you're a board certified male ho like you say you used to be. There will be no ho'ing while I'm around, young man. |
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Post by LUCAS STYLES. on Aug 26, 2007 0:58:51 GMT -5
Then like I said...tell the truth about who you are now...pretend you have short term memory loss.
"Yes Tiffany I climbed Everest just last week actually."
"My name's Beth."
"Oh sorry, I have short term memory loss Megan."
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. I'll keep everyone posted on how things work out.
, to one girl.