LUCAS STYLES.
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Post by LUCAS STYLES. on Aug 25, 2007 20:30:10 GMT -5
Now looking back on the Pictures of Yourself thread, I noticed that we got into discussion of game, picking up women and generally just strategy and technique. So of course being the very strange kid I am I thought it would make for a good thread. So here it is. Just a place to throw out different tips on different situations, offer advice about "relationships (gah scary word)" and just other general stuff like that. You could even give just fake situations and see how different people would work their way out of it. Anyways, hopefully this thread works and helps some people out. Fershizzle.
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Post by xwa on Aug 25, 2007 20:35:39 GMT -5
Just an added note that there will be no flaming in this thread. Let's keep it clean folks.
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Post by dru on Aug 25, 2007 21:00:38 GMT -5
Any posts that even remotely LOOK like it's off topic gets DELETED INDEFINITELY. And with that, I'll begin. There are tons of way to meet women. And not just normal, "Plain Jane" women, I mean drop dead GORGEOUS women. What it takes? Charisma. I said it before, I'll say it again, and I'll keep on saying it because it hasn't failed me to this day. in my 27 years on this ball of rock, I can honestly say I've dated 8's and up (My current being a perfect 10. Luv' ya babe).  Now while i'm not a bad looking guy, I'm no Taye Diggs. But what I have that SO many other guys don't is that "Never beaten until i'm down" attitude. And from my experience, women a drawn more to an "alpha male". And lord knows in a room full of guys it's easy to tell who the alpha male is. It's the guy who speaks with assertiveness and confidence. The guy who stands up and greets people eye to eye with a firm, hearty handshake. And more times then not, I'm usually that guy. In clubs, greeting women is never a problem for me, because I don't fear being rejected. As long as you're confident, smell nice, and present yourself with class, a female will offer you that "window". What you do in that window dictates if she blows you off or not. This is pretty much where most guys fuck up. They either talk to much, or not enough. There in lies the balance of individuality. You've gotta find out what side of the line to walk, as some ladies like a man who can verbalize himself well, others like a guy who doesn't talk much. It's tricky, but worth the risk of finding. And FOR GOD'S SAKES!!! For those old enough to go to clubs, or if ever you yunginz find yourself in one...DON'T TOUCH HER UNLESS SHE GIVES YOU A SIGNAL!!! So many times I see dudes roll up to a chick and try to get a dance with em by placing a hand on there hip, or worse. Sure fire way to get shot down. If you're dancing witha' gal, and she gets close enough to you that touching is unavoidable, she probably wants you to get closer, ANOTHER mistake your "timid" type guys will make. When the opportunity comes up, don't think...just GO FOR IT. Be yourself, be strong willed, and to the victor goes the spoils. |
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Post by cade on Aug 25, 2007 21:18:25 GMT -5
I see that happen myself. And then the guys have the nerve to get pissed. LMAO!!! I might not be as much of a "Mack" as you are, but I can definitely attest to the confidence thing. But I'm a bit of a shy dude in public places. If I'm talking to a woman solo, I'm ok. But with people around I clam up. Might be that I don't want other guys hearing me get all sappy. |
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Post by xwa on Aug 25, 2007 21:25:18 GMT -5
At first and in person, I don't have much confidence. Get me behind a computer and the confidence FLIES off me. Why? I don't know. But' that's how I've had a lot of long distance relationships. I guess I just need to apply what I do online in person.
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Post by Shawn Hollywood on Aug 25, 2007 21:35:14 GMT -5
At first and in person, I don't have much confidence. Get me behind a computer and the confidence FLIES off me. Why? I don't know. But' that's how I've had a lot of long distance relationships. I guess I just need to apply what I do online in person. It's all about just spitting it out. If you go up to a girl, and your confidence goes down to nothing, suck it up, and tell her how you feel. Does that work? I don't know..... Write 'em a letter. |
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Post by xwa on Aug 25, 2007 21:36:08 GMT -5
Write 'em a letter.
Might as well talk to them online at that point.
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Post by dru on Aug 25, 2007 21:36:42 GMT -5
Online you can be anyone or anything. It's in person that it matters. Because say you get to know a person online, but then it comes to the point of you meeting face to face and you clam up, now this person thinks that you were puttin' on a front, and now they're TOTALLY put off by you. You have to train yourself to thinking "The most she can do is say no". Cuz in truth that's that can happen. Rejection is part of the game. If you fear rejection, you're not even gettin' onto the playinf field, much less scoring.
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Post by Shawn Hollywood on Aug 25, 2007 21:41:49 GMT -5
Write 'em a letter. Might as well talk to them online at that point. If you actually know the person, write them a letter. Ah hell, that's old fashion. And I'm speaking from a different level of hooking up to. It's basically like this, and no insult intended....Get your balls and go for it. |
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Post by xwa on Aug 25, 2007 21:42:52 GMT -5
The thing is, I've found that once I assert myself online, I'll assert myself in person the same. Because the initial introduction is out of the way and they haven't rejected me yet . Unfortunately for me, I hate failure and thus, fear of rejection is there. |
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Post by dru on Aug 25, 2007 22:15:14 GMT -5
Well you're GOING TO FAIL before you succeed. That's a given. I can't even begin to to tell you how many times I've been shot down, and even when I'm on point. It happens. At that point you've gotta suck it up, and go to the next venture. To use the great sport of football as an analogy:
You're the wide-out on the "Get lucky with a chick" team. The female herself is the defense. As a Wide-out, you've gotta read the defense, run your route, find the weak spot in the coverage, and get open. Consider your approach as the "pass". Either 1 of the things will happen. You either make the catch for the first down, drop it, or get laid out by the "D". If you get the first down, line it up and go for another. If you drop it, try a different play. And if you get jacked up, pick yourself up, fix your helmet, and get back on the field. Just like playing wide-out, if you fear "going over the middle", you may as well not play the game. Getting hit comes with playing the game, just as getting rejected comes with courting a female.
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Post by cade on Aug 25, 2007 22:18:55 GMT -5
You need to be writing a book. That had to be the best use of a football analogy I've ever read. LMAO. But as Omega said, rejection SUCKS. Especially when it's from a female you might have really liked. It's a downer when you work up the nerve to talk to a girl, and she ceremoniously "Lays you out". It's a blow worse then getting hit in the gut.
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Post by xwa on Aug 25, 2007 22:24:06 GMT -5
It's like getting kicked in the balls. It takes awhile to get back up.
As for me, I hate trying to meet girls in bars/dance bars. They are simply too noisy to be able to hear what they are saying. Atleast for me anyways.
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Post by dru on Aug 25, 2007 22:30:54 GMT -5
I met my "beloved" in a dance club. Webster Hall to be exact. And you've seen what she looks like. She draws PLENTY of attention to herself, especially in social settings. But it was all about being ahead of the curve, and BAM. 777.
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Post by xwa on Aug 25, 2007 22:34:11 GMT -5
I would rather be in a quiet place so I could talk to them instead of shouting at the top of my lungs.
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Now while i'm not a bad looking guy, I'm no Taye Diggs. But what I have that SO many other guys don't is that "Never beaten until i'm down" attitude. And from my experience, women a drawn more to an "alpha male". And lord knows in a room full of guys it's easy to tell who the alpha male is. It's the guy who speaks with assertiveness and confidence. The guy who stands up and greets people eye to eye with a firm, hearty handshake. And more times then not, I'm usually that guy.
